When the Problem Is Not Only the Child, but a Society That Does Not Accept Differences Author: Gouya Roshan

When the Problem Is Not Only the Child, but a Society That Does Not Accept Differences

A child with autism, cerebral palsy, or another disability is not only facing a physical or psychological challenge; they and their families often face a much greater challenge: society’s perception.

Many people believe that the biggest difficulty in the lives of these children is autism itself or their disability. However, in reality, the greater pressure often comes from somewhere else: from ignorance, prejudice, and a lack of social acceptance.

A child with special needs is, above all, a child. Like every other child, they have the right to play, laugh, go to the park, participate in social life, make friends, and feel that they belong in this world. Yet sometimes, society’s behavior causes families to distance themselves from these simple and natural rights.

I did not only see limitations in the faces of these children; I saw children who, like all children, need love, attention, play, and recognition. What disturbed me most was not their differences, but the distance that society sometimes creates between them and the rest of the world.

During a visit to a day-care center for children with disabilities and autism, I encountered realities that remain hidden from many people. The lack of facilities, the conditions of care, and the absence of adequate support were clearly visible; but the most painful part was listening to the parents.

Many of them complained not only about the difficulties of caring for their children, but also about society’s attitudes and sometimes even the behavior of some family members. In addition to worrying about their children’s future, they were forced to fight against stares, prejudice, and feelings of isolation.

Sometimes families avoid parks, recreational centers, or public spaces—not because they do not want their children to be seen in public, but because they fear other people’s reactions. Stares, uncomfortable questions, or unfair judgments can turn a simple family outing into a stressful and painful experience.

This is especially difficult for families with limited financial resources. Those who cannot afford private schools, specialized support programs, or additional services often face even greater pressure. In such circumstances, the lack of social support can increase the family’s anxiety and emotional exhaustion.

I have personally witnessed these realities in Turkey, Iraq, and Azerbaijan. Of course, every society has its own unique characteristics and challenges, but there is one common point: wherever public awareness is lower, the burden placed on the child and the family becomes heavier.

In contrast, for many children with special needs in numerous European countries, Canada, and some other societies, conditions are often easier—not because autism or disability does not exist there, but because society is more accepting of diversity. Public education, inclusive schools, accessible spaces, and greater awareness of people with disabilities help children and families feel less alone.

Naturally, no society is perfect, and families raising children with special needs face challenges everywhere. However, the key difference lies in how much effort a society makes to remove the barriers standing in their way.

Children with autism or disabilities and their families are not asking for special rights. They simply want to live like everyone else: without fear of rejection, without shame, and without the need to hide from society.

A civilized society is not measured by its tall buildings, advanced technology, or economic power; it is measured by how it treats those who need the greatest understanding, support, and opportunities.

I did not see disability in these children; I saw human beings who deserve love, opportunities, and the chance to live fully.

Perhaps the greatest transformation will begin when society understands that being different is not a reason to exclude someone; it is a part of the truth of human life.